Kandi: Real Housewives of ATL – Fiance has 6 kids & 4 Baby’s Mamas

Kandi: Real Housewives of ATL – Fiance has 6 kids & 4 Baby’s Mamas–Say What?

real-housewives-of-ATLSo,  I’m  sitting  here watching  The Real Housewives of Atlanta–yeah, I know, I know.

And, I can’t believe what just came flying out of Kandi’s (former Xscape group member) mom’s mouth: Kandi’s finance, A.J., has four baby’s mamas.  Yeah, I’m  late and, yes, you did read that correctly–but that’s not it.  He also has six kids and has a reputation around the ATL for being  a deadbeat dad.  Say what?

Click here to read a blog post about the award-winning songwriter AND listen to radio show interview where she defends her fiance’s rumored deadbeat ways.

Needless  to say, Kandi’s mother is not thrilled about Kandi and AJ’s upcoming marriage–and who could blame her?

As you may know, Kandi is a single mother, so she may–or may not–have her own single mama and baby daddy drama of her own to contend with. So, why in the world would she entertain a man, who reportedly–because only he knows for sure–doesn’t or didn’t take care of his own  kids, all six of them?  I don’t know about you (but do tell), but as single mother, whose son’s father has not been consistently in his life, emotionally, physically or financially, there is just no way on God’s green earth that he could get next me, let alone have the nerve to ask for my hand in marriage–but I digress.

I’m not trying to judge–but I am saying, though.

I know that some–not all–women  in the ATL feel like they have to settle because the scarcity of available men.  We (I live here), are constantly reminded that the ratio women to men is like 14:1; include all the gay men in the ATL and its probably 18:1 (just my opinion).  So, many single women in the ATL either settle or go without a man. Sad but true. Now, imagine being single with children and looking. Starting to see the dilemna?  But again, I digress:-)

Maybe, it’s just me —and Kandi’s mama—but I would have to say, heck-to-the-naw on dating him. Life’s too short and that’s just too much potential for unnecessary baby’s mama drama to the 4th power (lol).

My thing is this: We’ve all made mistakes in life–me included.  But does Kandi not see the red flags? This man made a conscious choice to be a baby’s father to 4 different women and not marry either of them, but he’s willing to marry you–I wonder why? I say that he consciously chose, because after you father (or mother) one child out of wedlock, you should have become conscious of how easily it could happen–but also how easily it could have been prevented.  It’s all about choice. And, in my opinion, he consciously chose to be a baby’s daddy to four women and a father of six.  That’s my story and I’m sticking to it (lol).

Final thought: We all have the power of choice.  We have the power to choose who and what – good or bad – we allow into our lives. If we don’t like the drama, we don’t have to let it in.  The choice again is ours.  So, what are you going to choose a drama-free or drama-filled life?

So my questions to you are, could you date a man:

1) with that many kids?

2) that many babies’  mamas?

3) a man that doesn’t support his kids (financially or emotionally)?

Post your comments here:

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4 thoughts on “Kandi: Real Housewives of ATL – Fiance has 6 kids & 4 Baby’s Mamas

  1. TO YOU KANDI I REALLY I WATCHED THE SHOW AND SAW HOW IT HURT YOU TO SEE THAT YOUR MOTHER IS NOT GIVING YOU THE SUPPORT THAT YOU NEED. I WLL SAY TO YOU GO DOWN ON YOUR KNEES AND PRAY AND TALK TO GOD! IWENT THROUGH THE SAME THING WITH MY MOTHER SHE WOULD NOT EXCEPT WHO HAD CHOSEN ME FOR A WIFE. HE WAS NOT GOOD ENOUGH MY HUSBAND ANDI HAVE BEEN TOGETHER NOW FOUR YEARS I COULD NOT LET HER TAKE MY HAPPINESS AWAY FROM ME SHE HAS SINCE GOWN TO LOVE AND RESPECT HIM FOR THE MAN HE TRULY IS. GOD BLESS NEVER LET ANYONE TAKEYOUR JOY AWAY. HE MAY HAVE 6 KIDS BUT IN THIS DAY AND AGE WHO MARRYS THERE CHILDS FATHER TRUE THERE ARE SOME BUT NOT MANY BUT SOME THINGS ARRE FOR YOU AND HIM TO WORK OUT AND I SAY GOB BLESS YOU GO GIRL.

  2. I agree with you that you shouldn’t let other people run your relationships, but sometimes other people can see things in your relationship that you can’t simply because your vision is cloudy because you’re in love.

    In the end, you should follow your heart and if the dude ends up being what your mama said he was, you can chaulk it up to “mama knows best” and a life’s lesson learned.

    Keep it real and drama free.
    Ms. No Single Mama Drama

    • For whatever reason – only Kandi and AJ know – they are no longer together.

      Here’s a snippet from Essence.com:
      ESSENCE.COM: Hold up. Did you just say you and AJ are no longer together?
      BURRUSS: (Laughs.) We’re on hiatus. He’s a great guy and he’s not the type to sit on his behind like a scrub, so it has nothing to do with that. Yes, he has a lot of children, and yes, I didn’t know about them all at first but I got over it because as long as you handle your responsibility and spend time with your children it’s not an issue for me. Another thing I want to set the record straight on is that AJ was married before. A lot of people make comments like, if he didn’t marry his other children’s mothers then why do you think he’s going to marry you.

      Read the full story here.

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