What Women Can Learn from Murderess Carla Hughes About Relationships
In a recent post, 5 Signs Your Man is a Fool Called Crazy, I wrote about how women–and that includes all women to some degree or another–have had a fool, been a fool and accepted foolishness at some point in our lives.
And Carla Hughes is proof positive of that.
Carla Hughes’ out-of-control love (or lust) for a man ruined the lives of innocent victims and her own. And, as you can see, no man, especially a philandering womanizer (or low-down dirty dawg in my estimation) is worth taking a life and losing your own to life-long prison sentence. And look at Keyon Pittman now: he’s cuddled up with his new wife, while she’s off to prison, where she can’t be a mother to her son for the rest of her life.
But, like I said before, all foolishness–and this qualifies as top-notch foolishness–has a purpose. This one can teach women about what having relationships with attached/married men will get them:
(1) Don’t get involved with an attached or married man period!Carla Hughes knew that Keyon Pittman was engaged to and living with his fiance and that they were expecting a child, so she should have fully expected to be treated like the jump off (the chick on the side, primarily used for sex) she was. Unfortunately, some men, like Keyon Pittman, didn’t expect to get the nookie from a girl called crazy, Carla Hughes, and didn’t expect the jump off to be as crazy as she was. Unfortunately, some jump offs are crazy enough to kill innocent pregnant woman, like Avis Banks and her unborn child.
Why Messing with an Attached or Married Man is Wrong:
Getting involved with an attached or married man says a lot about the woman, just like it does the man. Any woman willing to be less than a man’s first and only priority is telling that man and the world that she is willing to accept anything because she doesn’t love or respect herself. Grow a self-esteem already and get your own man, puhleese.
Carla Hughes basically gave Keyon Pittman a pass to treat her anyway he wanted because she let him by becoming his jump off. Once you do that, a man loses total and complete respect for you, and he will never be the man you want and need him to be, so stop trying. If you’re stupid enough to be a man’s jump off then play your position–and expect whatever karma has in store for you, even if its prison for life. Is any man really worth all that?
Women Who Kill – Ann Jones ($10.85)
(2) If You Get Caught Up Behind a Man–Don’t Continue the Stupidity and Let Him Get Away With It
I’m not sure what Keyon Pittman’s involvement in the crime was–only he, Carla Hughes and God knows for sure. But, if he had anything to do with Avis Banks’ murder–before, during or after the fact–he needs to go down, too. Carla made a legal strategy faux pas. Instead of accepting responsibility for her actions and including Keyon Pittman in planning and murder of the crime (if this is the case), she tried to point the finger just at him–and it backfired in major way. Now, he’s out living his life and she’s going down for the whole thing by herself.
Why Taking Stupidity to the Next Level is Insane!
If you’re dumb enough to get caught up in any type of drama behind a man (and I hope you’re not), don’t take the stupidity to the next level by being the scape goat, while he’s Scott free! You better sing like a bird. If that man had any involvement in the drama, you better take him down with you. Period!
There are too many instances where women have done dumb and even sick things, like allow the man to have sex with their children, to hold on to a man. If you find yourself doing dumb stuff like that, seek help. That’s definitely not normal and it’s definitely not love. When a real man loves you, he will never ask you to do anything to compromise your self-respect or your relationship with your children, your family or him. Period!
Why Do They Kill? Men Who Kill Their Intimate Partners
David Adams ($18.86)
(3) Don’t Compromise Your Morals for Your Man!
Carla Hughes was described as a spiritual, God-fearing woman, but wasn’t she the same woman who knowingly slept with a soon-to-be married and soon-to-be father man? And, from how they both described the relationship–it went sexual almost instantly.
When You Compromise Your Morals and Beliefs, You Lose Yourself
Now I don’t know how committed Carla Hughes was to her faith, so this is not a judgment; instead, I’m simply using it as an example. What I do know is that Carla Hughes did do is go against her own moral beliefs and values. The Bible teaches us not to envy another person or his/her things, and not to commit adultery or murder and so does the law. When you put your morals and beliefs on the back burner for another person, you are not living your authentic self, which causes you to lose who you are. When you lose who you are, you will do things that are out of character for you. Plus, if a man truly loves and appreciates you, he will not only accept you for who you are, he will come along for the journey.
Hell Hath No Fury Like a Woman Scorned:
True Stories of Women Who Kill – Wensley Clarkson
(1) What do you think about Carla Hughes? Do you see her as a victim, too?
(2) Do you think she was manipulated into murder by the man she loved?
(3) Have you ever lost your mind behind a man and in the name of love?