Hurt people. Hurt people. Period.
When your children’s father or ex-husband rejects, mistreats, disrespects or abuses you, the ugliest side of you can come out to play—but only if you let it.
You see, you have a choice.
You can choose to be angry, allowing your anger to dominate your thoughts, emotions, and actions—or, you can choose to get your grown woman on.
The choice is yours and yours alone.
Get Over Your Baby’s Daddy Already!
As a single mother, one of the most significant relationships that you will have going forward is with your child(rens)’s father. Whether you like it or not, once the relationship is over, it’s over and you need to move on.
But how do you move on when the hurt runs deep?
Updated video: 05/28/2018
In a recent post, I wrote about how women–and that includes all women to some degree or another–have had a fool, been a fool and accepted foolishness at some point in our lives.
And Carla Hughes is proof positive of that.
Carla Hughes’ out-of-control love (or lust) for a man ruined the lives of innocent victims and her own. And, as you can see, no man, especially a philandering womanizer (or low-down dirty dawg in my estimation) is worth taking a life and losing your own to life-long prison sentence.
And look at Keyon Pittman now: he’s cuddled up with his new wife, while she’s off to prison, where she can’t be a mother to her son for the rest of her life.
But, like I said before, all foolishness–and this qualifies as top-notch foolishness–has a purpose. This one can teach women about what having relationships with attached/married men will get them:
Carla Hughes knew that Keyon Pittman was engaged to and living with his fiance and that they were expecting a child, so she should have fully expected to be treated like a side piece (a married/taken man’s woman on the side, primarily used for sex) that she was.
Unfortunately, some men, like Keyon Pittman, didn’t expect to get the nookie from a crazy broad, Carla Hughes, and didn’t probably didn’t expect her to be as crazy as she was. Unfortunately, some side chicks are crazy enough to kill an innocent pregnant woman, like Carla Hughes did to Avis Banks and her unborn child.
Getting involved with an attached or married man says a lot about the woman, just like it does the man. Any woman willing to be less than a man’s first and only priority is telling that man and the world that she is willing to accept anything because she doesn’t love or respect herself. Grow a self-esteem already and get your own man, puhleese.
Carla Hughes basically gave Keyon Pittman a pass to treat her any way he wanted because she let him by becoming his jump off. Once you do that, a man loses total and complete respect for you, and he will never be the man you want and need him to be, so stop trying. If you’re stupid enough to be a man’s jump off then play your position–and expect whatever karma has in store for you, even if its prison for life. Is any man really worth all that?
Recommended Reading:
Women Who Kill – Ann Jones ($10.85)
ATL Housewife: Kandi’s Ex-Fiance Murdered
Kandi Burruss’ (The Real Housewives of Atlanta) ex-fiance, Ashley “A.J.” Jewell, was murdered last night in an ATL strip club, The Body Tap Club, located at the 1200 block of Marietta Street in Downtown Atlanta.
According to news reports, A.J. got in an alteration in the parking lot of the club, where he received a fatal blow to the head. AJ was part owner of the club.
View WSBTV’s slide show of the crime scene.
An employee of the club, Frederick Richardson, has been charged with voluntary manslaughter–not murder–and is being held at Grady Detention Center in connection with the crime.
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I have dated my fair share of fools, and I’m sure you have, too. After all, it’s a numbers thing, if you think about it. There’s a lot you can do to reduce the number of fools you run into, but that doesn’t mean you will avoid them altogether.
Some fools have a way of slipping through the cracks. Slick, sleazy or grimey, a fool will get in where he can fit in, even if no one wants him there.
